Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less

Making people like you in ninety seconds is no big deal if you know how to do it. As a matter of fact, if people don't like you in those first few seconds, it's going to be difficult (Not impossible though, mind you) to make them like you later anyway. So the first few seconds are critical. How do you use those first few seconds?

First ask yourself a question. When you meet someone for the first time, what types of people do you begin to like? Do you generally take a liking to a person who frowns on meeting you, and looks distant and avoids your eyes? Or do you like someone who smiles, and reaches out to you warmly, looking you in the eyes? If you're like most people, your answer's going to be yes for the second question, and there lies your tips for handling those first few seconds. Be positive, warm and confident. Show that you are looking forward to meeting that person. He or she will reciprocate.

People frown or avoid meeting your gaze not because they want to do it; they do it without knowing that they do it. You might be doing it without knowing that you are doing it. In most cases it's because you're on the defensive. You are shy or nervous about meeting a stranger and react by doing these things. So the trick is to be aware of this, and make a conscious effort to change your behavior. You can with practice and a bit of determination. The golden rule is to remember that you and the person you're meeting are normal human beings. Don't be afraid of little mistakes that you might make.

Silence may be golden, but it doesn't get you anywhere in making people like you in ninety seconds. It's a different matter that after knowing some persons for some time, you enjoy their silence more than their talk, but I'm sure you're not one of them. (If you are you can and should change yourself). So when you meet a stranger, keep a stock of small talk ready with you. Indirectly compliment the person on some good quality that you can see in him or her.

Finally, look for signals about how the person receives what you're saying and fine tune yourself if possible. However, be natural. Don't get too carried away by wanting to please the other person or win his/her approval.

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